By Tildy Banker-Johnson
Roadtrips are an odd phenomenon. You sit in a small metal box for hours on end, while traveling far distances. Sometimes, you’re alone, and sometimes you have friends. Almost always there’s a set destination, and no plans to stop along the way. Occasionally, you might wander along the highway, with ideas about where you want to stop for the night, but no plan—just a sense of adventure driving you along. This latter example is of course the more romanticized and often fictionalized type of road trip, but I’ve found that they do indeed exist, even if they’re rare. More often then not, there’s the in-between kind of road trip, where you plan an end point, but you use the space in between to find interesting stops and strengthen the sense of who you are and how you relate to those around you.
Roadtrips are an odd phenomenon. You sit in a small metal box for hours on end, while traveling far distances. Sometimes, you’re alone, and sometimes you have friends. Almost always there’s a set destination, and no plans to stop along the way. Occasionally, you might wander along the highway, with ideas about where you want to stop for the night, but no plan—just a sense of adventure driving you along. This latter example is of course the more romanticized and often fictionalized type of road trip, but I’ve found that they do indeed exist, even if they’re rare. More often then not, there’s the in-between kind of road trip, where you plan an end point, but you use the space in between to find interesting stops and strengthen the sense of who you are and how you relate to those around you.
I’ve been on my fair share of roadtrips;
going to high school an hour away from home means that every day has that sort
of quality, sitting in the car for more than a short ride, listening to music
at full blast, coffee in the cupholders, and seemingly endless traffic. But
aside from the commutes to school, I’ve been on a number “legitimate”
roadtrips, ones that took hours and/or days, and were as enjoyable as the
destination itself, each memorable in its own way and leaving me wanting more.
There was the time I drove through a series of thunderstorms on the way back to
Boston from New Canaan, CT, two of my friends belting Taylor Swift in the
background while I navigated the interstate. Just this past summer, I drove to
Nova Scotia from New Hampshire with two other friends for a hiking quest,
exploring the area of Canada known as the Maritimes. We laughed as we smuggled
wine back across border.
A roadtrip always has its low moments,
but in hindsight, what I mostly end up remembering are the high points, the
incredible fun I have when I spend hours on the road with people. If you have
the will to endure the long hours in the car (in which someone invariably falls
asleep) and the thirst for new people, places, and memories, then you can enjoy
a roadtrip. Whether it’s stopping at a farm stand for freshly picked
blueberries, or taking a mountain-view picture at a pull-off from the road you
didn’t know was there, roadtrips give you the chance to explore who you are on
your journey.
One of my longest roadtrips came last spring,
when I spent five days going around the southern coast of Ireland (I was
studying abroad in Dublin). This was an unusual trip for two reasons, the first
being home base. As a student, Dublin
was my home for nearly six months, but that wasn’t nearly enough to discover it
completely, so it felt odd to be leaving it to explore some other place. But
after all, Dublin is a walking city and my thirst for roadtrips could not be
denied. The second reason was that I had not known my travel companions as long
time as I had my compatriots on previous road trips. In Dublin, the first
people I really became close to were not actually Irish students. They were
other international students; not American, but Finnish, Swedish, English, and
German. During Reading Week, the last
week in February where no students at the university had classes, myself and
four of these ladies decided to go on a roadtrip.
They were the English Caroline, the other
redhead of the group, (although we were not particularly rare in Ireland) with
whom I shared a hostel room with before orientation even began; Anna, the
bouncy, energetic German; Heidi who was extremely tall and Finnish, and who
shared my affinity for photography and good Guinness; and Kata, Finnish as
well. I wasn’t initially very familiar with Kata, but I felt she was very
sweet—one of those rare individuals who was always asking about my family, how
my classes were going, how my day was, and was actually listening for the
answers. When I was asked to join the group on a roadtrip during a reading week
at the end of February, I had my hesitations. I hadn’t been spending as much
time with them as I had in our first two weeks together, and there was definitely
a culture divide between the American and the Europeans (they had loved Robbie
Williams in the 90s; I had evennever heard of him). Nevertheless, I decided
that this was what studying abroad was all about: taking risks, having
adventures, and strengthening friendships.
The trip started out awkwardly: we met on
a bridge over the Liffey River, between the North End of Dublin and the South
End at promptly 9am. Well, not promptly. Caroline was always late. This time,
having gone out the night before (every night, except Sundays and Mondays, was
a party night in Dublin), Caroline had overslept. To make things even worse,
the first person to begin driving was Kata, who was the oldest of us at
twenty-four, and who had generously offered to rent the car in her name (when
we finally all got to the airport, that is), but then neglected to mention that
she had an aversion to driving on the left side of the rode. Instead of toward
the highway, she frantically drove us in the opposite direction, to a
convenience store so that we could switch drivers. Caroline took over, being
the only one of us who knew how to drive on the wrong side of the road.
Despite our rocky start, there were
many highlights of the trip: our first day we went to Glendalough, a pretty
park with an old cemetery. Kata and I walked together, admiring the
mini-waterfalls down the rocks imbedded into the hills whilst talking about our
long distance relationships, stopping for glamor shots among the greenery. We
reminisced about the cats that were waiting for us at home, upon our return in
May, picturing them curled up in by the fireplaces in our respective houses,
not having to deal with the cold damp of Dublin. We moved on to Blarney Castle,
and although I didn’t kiss it for luck (which would have involved hanging
upside down from the top of the castle and possibly falling), saw the Blarney
Stone. I managed to capture a picture of Anna going in for a kiss, but she
confessed to me later that she didn’t actually touch her lips to the stone; I
suppose the thought of so many tourists’ lips before her wasn’t exactly
appealing.
Driving through the Ring of Kerry, the
South Western coast of Ireland, was incredible. It was amazing to watch the
waves throw off sparkles while scaling a hillside in our small car—an
experience I will never forget. On our drive through the Ring, we found an old
stone fortress, its thatch roof long gone, with nothing but a tiny, illegible
plaque for company. It was one of those places we would have never known to stop
for, if we had not seen a sign for it on the road. We spent maybe half an hour
in the fortress, climbing the stones, which had been stacked in steps (even
though the sign said not to), up to the tops of the dilapidated walls. Who had
built this fortress and why? It was unreal that this stone fort was built
without any sort of mortar, and had survived for centuries, even if it was long
abandoned—and that we had found it by mere chance.
Closer
to the end of our trip we walked the half-mile along the Cliffs of Mohr, which
are so high up, the waves that beat against them seem to be moving in slow
motion. Heidi, braver than the rest of us, stepped off the path onto the dewy
grass close to the edge (I thought my heart would stop) and managed to capture
a photo of a puffin nesting in a niche on the cliff.
Despite the magic of these isolated
moments, the activities that gave us the most opportunity for bonding were
actually the dinners we cooked together almost every night. The hostels we
stayed in equipped their kitchens with the basic amenities, and we whiled away
hours in the discount grocery stores, wandering the aisles, trying to find ingredients
that would appease every one. Eventually it would lead to us making simple
dishes like pasta or rice and salad, while we drank cheap wine and prepared for
the events of the evening (usually going to a pub or going out dancing),
determinedly not thinking about the schoolwork we had left behind.
One of my favorite moments towards the
end of the trip, was watching P.S. I Love
You, a cheesy, romantic film that takes place mostly in Ireland. After a
day of driving through the winding hills of the Ring, we finally reached the
small, beautiful town of Dingle. There wasn’t much nightlife. After making
dinner, we settled down and watched the movie in the hostel room to ourselves,
going to bed after we had our dried our sappy tears, and swooned over the
places we had recognized (and Gerard Butler’s dreamy brogue). It was a moment
of friendship, where we weren’t planning or facing something new together, but
rather a similarity.
For me, this is where the true value of
this roadtrip (and all roadtrips, really) lies, and why I will never stop
taking roadtrips: we discovered the unexpected places where our sympathies and
feelings touched, despite our different backgrounds, amplified by our shared
experiences on the road. Roadtrips can shape your connections to the people
around you in a way like no other, and you may never get to know a person, nor
experience the world in quite the same way, as when you are on a highway,
finding the in-between.
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